With the holiday season coming to a close and the New Year approaching at what seems to be supersonic speeds, the appropriate theme of resolutions comes to mind. As for me, I enjoy a little ambition when I make my lists. That does not always work out in my favor. This year I decided to change it up a bit and take on somewhat unconventional resolutions. After putting some thought into it, I have found some great inspirations and ideas to share that I hope everyone can take a little something from. A great friend of mine and I were having a chat about life when all of a sudden Dan said, “Empowerment starts with you.” I thought about that for a moment realizing there is a huge capacity for ‘being our best selves’, but it starts from within.

Take time to REFLECT focusing on what is important to you. Make a list of things you like about yourself, about your life, and figure out where it is that your time is spent. The redundant statement “Life is what you make it” ultimately proves to be very accurate and believe it or not, its totally do-able. For this reason, it is necessary to do some soul searching and really GET TO KNOW YOURSELF. Figure out some likable key attributes and what you have to bring to the table. Realize that people are different and use that advantage to the fullest. Go out and try new things. This will allow you to MEET NEW PEOPLE ; It is keen to get to know them and what they do. Each person has a different set of skills, this allows for an opportunity to utilize your own by offering services of yours that others may not as easily come by. Sometimes the most rewarding accomplishment is the ability to lend a hand and more often than not you get as much as you give. Don’t forget to MARKET YOURSELF, be confident and allow others to see what you can do. Whether it involves a hobby, or a skill, each area of interest is an investment because time is something we cannot get back. If you could be spending your time doing what you enjoy and INVESTING in what is important it can be inferred that there will be less time for negativity, maybe even those pesky guilty pleasures that we all resolve to cut back on. Remember that the more you invest, the higher the chance for a greater return. Live a little. Another benefit of getting to know yourself is that you have the opportunity to pinpoint things that bring you pain. Acknowledge whatever it is that is holding you back from being the best you that you can possibly be and MOVE FORWARD/ FORGIVE. Holding grudges and negativity can lead to depression, sleep disturbances, loss of appetite and many other unhealthy habits. Accept the things you cannot change and let go. As if you were releasing a bird from its cage, take all that bad energy that had been trapped so tightly and relinquish control. Once you take initiative to free your mind of the things that in reality no longer have control of you, it can be noticed that they haven’t actually mattered for a long time. Spotlight the good nostalgia and RECONNECT WITH AN OLD FRIEND. It is proven that strong social bonds lead to better health. This also helps jog the memories of happy times which creates a positive look on the past giving a greater possibility for a better future.

All in all the majority of these resolutions all being with a mindset. What better way to be your best self, than to believe it. Awhile back I saw a great idea on the internet that involved a mason jar full of little notes. Each note that had been placed in the jar had been from throughout the year and all of the told about a moment or a time of happiness. To be able to have all those memories at the tip of your fingers. Imagine an arsenal made up of all the positive moments in life, it would be overflowing with joy. I may not have all of the years prior written on paper, but this coming year is a year to step up to the plate. This year I am letting go of hostility and uncertainty about yesterday and tomorrow and hone in on what I am dedicating my time to today. More importantly along the way I am going to put in the limelight all the wonderful experiences and feelings I find along the way. With this attitude and a little determination, anybody can be sure that from now on that the good will always outweigh the bad and the ugly.